Hi Jenna-
Just wondering, do you believe in true love??????? I am seriously doubting it. Because I was inspired by your quest for it. I thought you were brave, honest and true!!!! You remind me of me.
-Anonymous
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January 18, 2012 - 12:52 pm
I believe it exist its just a challenge to find it
January 21, 2012 - 2:33 am
Danyale,
Perhaps, the greater challenge is not so much in finding it, but preparing one’s self to give and receive it.
January 18, 2012 - 1:44 pm
I do believe in true love, I also believe that there is more than just one guy out there for eah of us. Be true to yourself and when you least expect it, love will find you! Hang in there, Jenna! He wasn’t worth your time and who wants to spend eight weeks with mean girls?
January 18, 2012 - 9:14 pm
Well, I know I believe in true love but I guess that sort of begs the question, “what the heck IS true love?”
I guess I’ve been in enough failed relationships that I have a far more realistic (though no less romantic) vision of what true love is, or can be.
One of my ex-girlfriends used to say, “relationships take work, they just can’t be too much work.” I’ve always liked that because to me it acknowledges the reality of having to sacrifice and compromise to make a relationship work – but acknowledges the fact that if we give up too much in our effort to succeed then it ceases to have real potential.
The challenge, then, is knowing when you’ve reached your thresholds.
To me, the saying, “Know thyself” lies at the heart of this. Until we’ve gained some experience in life and love, and until we know ourselves enough to recognize our preferences and our limitations- what we must have and what we can’t possibly sacrifice- we can’t really be ready to find “true” love.
January 21, 2012 - 3:01 am
Hey there,
You stated some good things! I am prompted to reiterate and add on to what you shared, but to not devalue your unique perspective.
To know what love means to you, or me, we should first recognize the source of it. If you are an aethist or agnositc, then you might not accept the truth that God is love, and we are able to love each other through the love He gives to us. For me, love begins and ends with God. There is no love more true than the love God has for humanity. So, yes, I absolutely believe in true love.
You brought up another valid point that Love is a commitment. If you want love without the commitment, then it’s not love you seek. That sounds more like lust and self-centered sex. Love is more than a feeling, and no less than a 100% commitment. It’s when you stop giving to the relationship that the love you share will die.
Lastly, I like your Shakespeare quote. To know yourself certainly helps foster a loving relationship. Think about this. If two lost people came together who didn’t know who they were and what they could give, it would be like the blind leading the blind. A disaster waiting to happen. Also, it has been said a million times that the measure of love and respect that you have for yourself, is the measure of love and respect that you have to give to other people. So, if you don’t love and repsect yourself much, then the quality of the love relationship will certainly fall below par.
In keeping with the Shakespeare theme, he also said, “God has given you one face, but you make yourself another.” Love needs much transparency to thrive, yet, if you’re unwilling to take off all of the masks that you can wear for the world, then your relationship will only be an illusion of love at best.
January 19, 2012 - 12:43 am
Of course! There is true love out there for everyone. You may doubt it because things seem like they never turn out your say, but one day fate will be on your side and that special someone will come to you and then you can tell all the other skeptics, that it does exists. You just may have to be patient.
January 22, 2012 - 9:13 pm
I believe in true love. Most blind themselves from it because they search so hard to find it.. but it’s not something that you should go searching for… it’ll only lead you astray in your journey of life. Just live life the way YOU want and love will find you
January 23, 2012 - 12:52 am
Yes, it certainly exists. But most people confuse it with romantic love.
In fact, there are several types of love -
1 – physical (aka lust)
2 – emotional and mental (romantic)
3 – spiritual, and
4 – true love (combines all the above).
And when in love it grows through several phases –
1. Attraction
2. Romance
3. Commitment
4. Challenge
5. Compassion – true love.
How do we know? We found true love, researched all about love to make sure what we had is true and how to maintain it.
We’ve written what we found and put much more detail at http://www.findtruelovebook.com – including a free e-book to help others better understand this most important aspect of life.
January 30, 2012 - 10:48 pm
You can certainly see your enthusiasm within the article you write. The world hopes for more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to mention how they believe. All the time follow your heart.